Wednesday, August 11, 2010


Momnesia (mom-nee-zhuh) - noun: Mothers who forget child and baby stages between the rearing of subsequent children.
I am definitely suffering from some serious Momnesia. Jaley is only four. Since her transition from baby to toddler to child, I have completely forgotten about all sorts of details and idiosyncrasies about raising little ones. For example, I completely forget:
  • How hard it is to change a toddler's diaper. Mick squirms, kicks, and tries to reach right into his dirty diaper to help.
  • How messy dinner time can be. One piece in Mick's mouth, one piece on his shirt (the bib never catches anything), one piece on the floor. The cats scrounge around for snacks, but I still have to sweep the kitchen 5 times a day.
  • How fast a toddler can get into trouble. Just one moment with my back turned and Mick dumped the entire garbage can on the floor. How he ever got it out of the cabinet and lifted it out of its holder - I'll never know.
  • How difficult it is to figure out just what a toddler wants. Mick has a definite opinion on what he wants. With a vocabulary of zero words, I'm forever trying to guess just what that want is. At least, we are getting better with the non-verbal clues. When he is thirsty he goes to the cabinet and pulls out ALL the bottles. Next, he tries and drink out of them. Then, I know it's time for some formula (since, I happily gave up breast feeding a couple of months ago).
I know lots of other moms suffer from this syndrome as well. I'll mention things about Mick to friends with older kids and I see that look on their face. That look that says "oh yes, now, I remember that stage." That look that says, "oh I had forgotten all about that, and boy am I glad that stage is over."

Moms may not actively admit that they forget things about their children. In fact, we pride ourselves on remembering every detail. It turns out, Momneesia is selective. We mommies remember all the good stuff - every kiss, hug, and cuddle. Instead, Momneesia only strikes on the challenging parts. And in the long-run, it may not matter if we forget that stuff.

That is life in the stroller lane.

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