Saturday, October 24, 2015

Snow Plow, Tiger, Helicopter, or Free Range

The throws of school in full swing.  There are endless streams of homework, friends, activities, volunteering, and so much more.  It feels as though I'm spending 26 hours a day on parenting.  With all the managing of the kids' schedules, I have gotten to wondering exactly what type of parent I am.

Am I a Snow Plow Parent?  Simply going out in front of the kids pushing every obstacle out of their way, then laying salt and sand ensuring safe passage.

Am I a Tiger Mom?  Finding all the perfect activities and scholastic opportunities to ensure their success in the classroom, college, and career.

Am I the Helicopter Mommy?  Flying overhead making sure the every assignment is completed, every appointment is kept, and every bully banished to harassing others.

Am I the Free Range Friend?  Pushing the kids to fly on their own, make mistakes, and determine their own path.

Maybe I am none of them? Or all of them? Or Tiger on Tuesday and Free Range on Fridays?  Or Snow Plow with Sarah and Helicopter Mommy with Mick?
I really don't know which I am.

I do know for certain parenting is hard work.  If you had asked me when I was 25 what made parenting hard, I would have said the diapers and the spit-up.  In actuality those were the easier parts, messy, but straightforward.  Dirty diaper? Change it.  Spit-up?  Clean it.

The hardest part of parenting is figuring out just how to parent.  Do you let your baby cry it out at 2am?  Let your toddler watch TV?  Let your elementary work out their fight with their BFF alone?  Your middle schooler bomb an assignment because he procrastinated? Your high schooler date and drive?  So many questions and so few clear answers.

You can scour the internet, but you will find an infinite different opinions.  The same is true for asking friends and family.  The truth is there usually isn't an easy yes/no answer.  The answer to real world parenting is it depends.  It depends on the child, the parent, the situation, the day, the place, and the phase of the moon.

What type of parent am I?  I still don't know and probably never will.  I will just answer each tricky question of parenthood as it pops up and hope for the best.  

That is life in MomZania.

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